The holidays can be a stressful time even in the best of circumstances. And, having an age gap relationship might add more stress to some families. So, we’ve put together these tips to help you survive the holidays.
Holiday Survival Tips
Make a plan in advance. Ideally, you would set your plan 6-7 weeks before a major holiday. Then, communicate your plan to family members who might pressure you.
Learn more about managing family relationships when you’re in an age gap relationship.
Feel free to create your own traditions. Alan and I have done this since the beginning of our relationship. We started going to a restaurant at Thanksgiving and going to a comedy club at New Year’s. Now, especially during the pandemic, we are likely going to make a nice dinner at home and watch a movie.
Be okay with saying no to what other people ask of you. This is a great time to practice your assertive skills. Know your plan, do what is best for you, and don’t be afraid to say no to requests from others.
In today’s environment, we’ve gotten better at virtual meetings. So, if you don’t want to or can’t meet in person, maybe try a Facetime or Zoom holiday gathering instead.
Avoid conflict. The holidays can be stressful and people can be more on-edge than usual. On the other hand, give people grace, be willing to compromise, and give everyone a little more forgiveness than usual.
Also, for our listeners who are in the early stages of their age gap relationship, we don’t necessarily think the holidays are the time to introduce or force your relationship onto your family members.
Check in with each other and have an escape plan. If you do decide to spend time with family, be sure to check in on your partner. If things go awry, have a plan for how you can leave quickly.
Don’t let your partner become the outsider. It can be hard for a partner to integrate with the other partner’s family and friends. Check in and help him or her feel comfortable.
Take care of yourself!!! The holidays are a notorious time for people to get overwhelmed. Keep your routine, be sure to do the things that make you feel good. Take extra care to get good rest, exercise, and eat well.
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