Many couples have the fear of losing the romance after being together for a certain amount of time. In today’s article, video, and podcast episode, Alan and I talking about our experience and some of our best tips for keeping the romance alive, despite a large age difference.
Celebrate Your Love Often
To help stay connected and feeling romantic about your partner, make an effort to celebrate your love often. This means that you mark milestones other than just yearly anniversaries. Instead, try to connect on a daily basis and remember why you fell in love with your partner.
Make Romantic Gestures
Romance and signs of love are different for everyone. For some, it means writing love notes to one another. Other people are more into touch or acts of service, like helping to do chores around the house.
One book that covers this topic well is The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman.
Hug & Kiss Often
Romance is all about staying connected to your partner. Touching each other with frequent hugs and kisses help maintain the connection and is good for the relationship.
Hugging and kissing is also a privilege that you likely only share with one partner, so enjoy it and do it often. There is even research on hugging and kissing that shows it helps overall physical and mental health.
Family therapist Virginia Satir once said, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.” While that may sound like a lot of hugs, it seems that many hugs are better than not enough.
Resolve Disagreements Quickly
There’s no better way to kill romance and connection than to bicker or argue. Having grudges is not healthy for any relationship, but especially not for romantic ones. Instead, work on finding cooperation. Seek a therapist to help work out your conflicts, if necessary.
Compliment Your Partner
Everyone likes being complimented and it can help make him or her feel noticed, loved, and special. Even noticing and pointing out the little things that you love and appreciate about each other can make a big difference.
Take Care of Yourself
Believe it or not, but loving and taking care of yourself can help extend to your relationship as well. If you make an effort to eat well, exercise, and look nice, then your self-love will improve your confidence and you’ll probably feel better overall.
Appreciate Changes Over Time
Every relationship experiences changes over time. Try to look at those changes as part of the natural evolution of your relationship and adapt as necessary.
For example, if the older partner become less physically fit with time, that doesn’t have to diminish the love you feel for each other. Instead, you might need to show your love for each other in different ways.
Long-term relationships can be just as romantic as new relationships. In the same vein, age gap relationships can also stay filled with romance even as the older partner ages.
Podcast & Video Links
To hear us discuss this topic, be sure to catch the YouTube video. Or, you can listen to the podcast below.
What Are the Benefits of Hugging? https://www.healthline.com/health/hugging-benefits
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman